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BDSM Glossary

Brief explanation of BDSM terms contained on our homepage.

Caning

While a cane made out of bamboo, rattan or reed is lighter than wood, it is more elastic, making the strikes more painful. Canes are often used in Punishment games.

CBT (cock and ball torture)

This covers all practices that inflict pleasure-pain when the Lady plays with the cock and balls. This ranges from scratching, pinching and nettling, through ice cubes, figging and electrostimulation, to crushing, beating and stamping.

Chastity belt

The chastity belt deprives the person wearing it of self control since it prevents male erection, sexual intercourse and masturbation.

Cock and ball torture

See CBT.

Diaperism

A type of material fetishism. Disposable or reusable diapers play a key role in this fetish. The scent of baby powder or baby oil is also sometimes a source of stimulation for the persons involved. Diaperism is often part of Adult baby play.

Dilatator

Metal bars of various thicknesses that are slightly curved in shape and rounded at the tip. As a medical device, they are used to expand bodily openings, especially the urethra, which can be perceived as extremely pleasurable and arous-ing.

Dirty game

Games involving scat (faeces) or vomit are taboo at our studio.

“Emasculate”

A form of roleplay during which a (usually very submissive) man can live out his castration fantasies.

Encasement bondage

See Mummification.

E-stimulation

Electrostimulation evolved from transcutaneous electrical nerve stimulation (TENS) used in the medical field to treat pain. Electro pads are placed on or around the cock and balls in order to stimulate them indirectly. There are also electro sex toys that can be inserted into orifices such as the anus to send tingling impulses throughout the body.

Facesitting

A breath control game. The woman sits on the man’s face while fully clothed (at our studio, dressed in vinyl, leather or latex pants). If combined with additional restraints, the man is now absolutely defenceless and is able to indulge in the power and closeness of his partner. Erotic asphyxiation can also be performed with the woman’s thighs, ass or pussy or using a mask over the man’s face to heighten sexual arousal.

Figging

Ginger root contains essential oils that trigger an immediate and sustained sensation of warmth, crossing the border between pleasure and pain. The ginger root is peeled and placed like a suppository inside the anus or into the urethra. It burns like hell – and in the process increases the flow of blood to the penis. Figging also belongs to the realm of Neverending games.

Fisting

A thrilling sexual practice where either the man’s anus or the woman’s pussy is first delicately stretched with one or more fingers before the entire fist is gently inserted. Serious and trained experts can sometimes even accommodate multiple hands and/or feet.

Flagellation

The act of flogging or thrashing with a whip, paddle or cane. Flagella-tion is generally a part of erotic roleplay or Punishment games and is more clearly defined and severe than Spanking.

Foot job

Sexual gratification (stimulation of the cock and balls) with the feet or toes.

Forced ejaculation

The man is aroused by means of prostate stimulation until he ejaculates without experiencing an orgasm. However, forced ejaculation can also be achieved by repeated – and, if desired, merciless – “wanking”.

Forced feminization

A roleplay where the man has to style himself and dress like a woman at the request of the Lady.

Genital bondage

A game belonging to the realm of cock and ball torture (CBT) where the cock and/or balls are bound using sleeves and straps. The aim here is not to inflict pain, but rather to heighten arousal and prolong orgasm. To provoke the pleasure-pain principle, weights can also be suspended from the sleeves and straps.

Gyno chair

A piece of BDSM furniture where the bottom lies on their back with their legs spread and bent and tied down in stirrups. It is ideal for doctor-patient games and anal massages.

Hoist

A simple machine to lift and move heavy loads. A hoist has fixed and loose pulleys through which ropes are threaded. We use hoists for suspension bondage or for certain roleplay scenarios.

HOM (hand-over-mouth)

A breath control game.

Latex punishment

See Rubber eroticism.

Mummification

The entire body or individual body parts are encased in materials such as plastic wrap or stretch film. The ensuing sensory deprivation (touch) heightens the bottom’s other senses: sight, hearing, smell and taste. In addition, the material provides a convenient and effective opportunity for attaching other objects.

Mummify

See Mummification.

Nettling

To begin with, the cock and balls are cleaned with alcohol, and then rubbed with stinging nettles. The tips of these so-called stinging hairs break off and damage the skin. They also stick into the skin and inject a substance containing folic acid into the wound, triggering a stinging sensation. Nettling is a form of Neverending game.

Never ending games

The umbrella term for games that are not (or cannot) be interrupted or aborted. The Lady can inflict these games in many ways, for example by applying stimulating substances such as cinnamon oil to the cock, balls or anus, thus rendering immediate “escape” impossible. See also Nettling or Figging.

Paddle

An instrument originally designed for castigating schoolchildren in the US. Paddles are made out of leather or wood and are broad and flat in shape. This disseminates the power of the blow over a larger area and does not leave as pronounced a mark.

Pinwheel

Also known as a Wartenberg wheel, this was originally designed as a medical instrument to test nerve reactions by rolling the star-shaped device – normally made out of stainless steel – across the skin.

Punishment games

See Slapping, Spanking and Flagellation.

PURE facesitting

The woman sits naked on the man’s face with her ass or pussy. In this case, the main focus is on the oral stimulation of the woman by the man. Since we do not offer oral sex, PURE facesitting is taboo at our studio.

Fucking machine

An extremely luxurious and stimulating sex toy. This type of stimulation is otherwise only possible with a partner. We have countless attachments and dildos.

Rubber eroticism

Material fetish with roleplay. It is not only the smell of rubber and the sensation of rubber on the naked skin that stimulates arousal, but also some-times the feeling of being confined in a rubber bag or sheathed in a rubber mask. For many, it is the heavy sweating that this induces coupled with the “depersonalization” of wearing a rubber outfit that is so appealing.

“Ruined orgasm”

A “ruined” or incomplete orgasm is an orgasm where the man ejaculates but does not achieve any gratification. This can be done by stimulating the prostate through the anus or by stopping stimulating upon appearance of the first drops of ejaculation. The ensuing sexual frustration then leads to heightened sexual arousal.

Scrotum stretcher

A piece of equipment that encases the scrotum and pulls the balls away from the body. The broader the stretcher, the more painful the sensation. Weights can also be attached to intensify the punishment – and thus the pain.

Sensory deprivation

The Lady deprives the man of at least one sense. This can range from simple blindfolds or masks to complete Mummification. Sensory deprivation intensifies all remaining senses, heightening desire or fulfilling a fetish.

Session (or game)

The (time and space) restricted activities between the Lady and her partner. Generally before each session the two will discuss all activities and rules.

Slapping

Smacks with the bare hand, for example across the face or on the behind. These are a gentle form of Spanking.

Spanking

The umbrella term for smacking games using the bare hand or another suitable instrument, e.g. whip, Paddle, Cane, birch, carpet beater. Spanking should only trigger the pleasure-pain receptors and not inflict any severe hurt or leave any mark. Compared with Flagellation, spanking is the more gentle smacking game.

Spanking horse

A thickly upholstered piece of BDSM equipment (usually in leather). The bottom is tied down to the horse on his stomach, leaving the thighs and behind exposed for various spanking games and anal play.

Spread bench

A special BDSM massage table with numerous fastening and play options. The legs are tied down in a spread-eagle position so that the Lady has free access to the man’s cock, balls and ass.

St. Andrew’s cross

A cross consisting of two beams that cross diagonally in the centre to form an “X”. Hooks and eyes are affixed to all four ends so that the arms and legs can be tied down using cuffs, ropes, chains or manacles.

Strap-on

A sex toy designed to be worn with a harness during sexual activity, com-plete with various dildo attachments.

T&D

T&D means ‘tease and denial’. Any technique that involves the sexual stimulation of a person to cause intense arousal. T&D techniques create prolonged sexual excitement  in the person being stimulated.  A series of T&D techniques may lead to an extremely high orgasm wave.

Tamakeri

Translated literally, “tamakeri” means “to kick in the balls” and is an im-portant part of Japanese pornography. Many men find it sexually stimulating – at least in their fantasies.

Trampling

A special form of foot fetishism where the man prostrates himself at the Lady’s feet who proceeds to stamp all over his body barefoot or in high-heeled shoes. The smaller the load-bearing surface (i.e. the heel), the greater the pleasure-pain.

Ultra chair

Our ultimate piece of slave equipment with endless fastening and play options for your ultimate pleasure and excitement. Prepare to be amazed!

Watersports

Also known as a golden shower, this refers to the sexual predilection for games involving urine.